Wednesday, December 1, 2010

An Amazing New Journey...............

As a single parent my daughter and I have been through a lot of journeys (as we call them ) together, I've always told her the things we went through would help "build her character", most of those trails made her the strong beautiful woman she is today..But nothing we every went through prepared her for this, and for once I have nothing to offer her but a shoulder to cry on and a heart full of support....

I remember when my daughter came home from her honeymoon and said, "Were not using birth control, so if God blesses us with ten kids we will love and provide for everyone of them". That was ten years ago and they are still waiting for that family to arrive...With a strong faith, they've never given up on the thought of a family, even with complications and infertility issues they've held strong to believing God will provide...A month ago, a young woman walked into their lives wanting to give her unborn baby to them...She had scheduled an abortion and couldn't go through with it....Her life was in turmoil and she knew she couldn't raise a baby in her world....This is a wonderful story! But.........The baby isn't due until April and their is still time for her to change her mind....

After meeting her I was saddened by her life and how she wanted to change things and start fresh...I drove home wondering how I should pray...


Of course the most important thing is a healthy Mother and baby, as well as a safe and easy delivery....


My heart wants to pray for her life to change and get on the track she wants....The selfish part of me is afraid that if it does before the baby is born that she will change her mind...And my baby won't be the Mother she yearns to be...


I've quickly realized that this isn't a Lifetime Movie...There are so many emotions and uncertainties involved in an adoption...The only thing that is certain is the Father has signed over his rights..My daughter and son-in-law still need to prepare for a baby that they may or may not get...The Mother is full of emotions, my daughter is full of emotions and I am overwhelmed with the thought of all this....
I will be keeping you posted because our journey has just began......
More to come...............

7 comments:

Linda said...

Oh I hope your daughter will be able to get this baby! Of course I should say..."if it is the Lord's will." We want what He wants for her for sure.

My oldest daughter and her husband have one adopted daughter and she was from a private adoption. They got her as a baby and she is now 18 years old. She is sooo loved and we have always been so thankful for God's precious gift of her to our lives.

I hope it all works out.

Love, Linda @ Truthful Tidbis

Chatty Crone said...

Oh course I am praying and hoping that it is HIS will for them to have this baby.

I hope that the young girl realizes that they will be able to give them more then she will be able to at this point.

And have they offered to let her be a part of it's life? Pros and cons.

But GOD BLESS.

Sandie

Linda @ A La Carte said...

I understand your emotions on this. My daughter is due with her first child in April and I know how blessed we are. I hope your daughter gets to be a Mother either to this child or another. I am praying for God's will for your daughter and this unborn child. You are doing what you can by being there for her!!

Lois Evensen said...

My brother adopted two children through private adoption. We went through all of these feelings. I have to say both adoptions were the best things that happened to everyone involved. Both adopted children are grown now and are fine adults. They knew they are adopted from the beginning and consider themselves their parents' children by choice, not chance.

Hugs,
Lois

septembermom said...

I'm praying for your daughter with this journey. It's complicated, but I trust that all will work for the best. I really hope she gets this little one. I will pray for all of you. Hugs. God bless you all.

DesertHen said...

And what an amazing journey it will be! I'm sure it will have many emotional ups and downs, but have faith that it will all turn out the way it is supposed too and that your daughter will be holding a sweet little one in the spring. I shall keep you in my prayers.

Hugs!

That corgi :) said...

first time visiting and commenting on your blog; having dealt with infertility and adoption myself, I can surely understand both sides to this picture; I think definitely praying for God's will, whether the baby is placed in your daughter/husband's household or raised by the birth mother is a good prayer as he, of course, knows what is best and sees the big picture where we just see a part of it all. Trusting he knows best is a good thing indeed. And definitely prayers for a healthy baby and safe delivery is so important too!

I added myself as a follower to your blog; looking forward to getting to know you more

betty